One of the purposes of tenure is to allow professors to take risks by attempting bolder project ideas. However, the dark side of this privilege is that professors will often assign students to grind on risky projects with low success rates. And students often can’t refuse, since they are funded by their advisors' grants.
在这种情况下，一定要学得聪明点，觉得希望不大赶紧换方向、换老师。不要在一棵树上吊死。不要被 PUA （喻宇琳 这么告诫我）、不要被导师利用。碰到这样的老师、这样的项目，要勇敢退出（Phillp Guo 的原话是 “Students must judge for themselves whether their default projects are promising, and if not, figure out how to quit gracefully”）。要学会坚决维护自己的利益。遇到事不要怕，迎难而上。总会有解决的一天。
读完《博士之磨》，我又看了 Kathryn R. Wedemeyer-Strombel 写的 Graduate Students: You Are More Than Your PhD。这篇文章是我在 NCA 的 Spectra 订阅杂志上看到的，没有电子版。 下面我把我感悟比较深的几句话摘抄下来：
In graduate school, it is so easy to lose ourselves to our programs, to lose our identity beyond “graduate student”, to fall into the trap of becoming research robots.
I am here to remind you that you are more than your research, you are more than your program, you are multidimensional, whole beings —— and your value, your worth, goes far beyond what you achieve in the ivory tower.
So, enjoy your life that is happening now, and give yourself permission to know yourself and others as whole beings. Framing our graduate education in this way, as a piece of who we are, but not all of who we are, is critical.
Take a moment right now and think of the last non-academic related activity you did just for you. If that didn’t happen in the last two weeks, schedule it now for next week
As important as being proactive about your work-life balance is, it is equally important to surround yourself with people——peers and mentors——who honor your boundaries. As Rebecca Barner says, “Science is a team sport; choose your team wisely”. Once you find your team, honor it.
I challenge you to get to know your peers as more than just research associates, to realize that your friend is more than the “internal rhetoric of scientists and engineers” researcher.
Try to make these types of gatherings a weekly event, when you hang out together alcohol-free and you don’t talk about your research or school.